"You've done the work. Read the books. Gone to therapy. learned techniques. And yet there is a version of you underneath it all that you can feel, but can't quite reach."
You are aware of many of your patterns. You could probably even describe them to someone else. And still, somehow, you find yourself back inside them — familiar reactions and stories on repeat. Seeing them hasn't been enough to change them.
"You know the pattern. You can even explain it. So why does seeing it never seem to change anything?"
If you're here, it's probably not your first time looking. You've likely already done real work on yourself. And you're still asking: why does this keep happening? Why do I know better and still react the same way? Why does insight not seem to change anything?
Here's what's actually going on: understanding a pattern in your head and being free of it in your body are two different things. Most approaches only do one. Therapy and self-help can help you see the pattern — name it, explain it, trace its origin — without ever touching the nervous system that's still running it. Spiritual and somatic practice can give you real, felt relief — a good class, or retreat, or an experience of deep relaxation — without ever helping you understand why you keep ending up back where you started.
You've likely gotten pieces of both. What you haven't gotten is both at once, aimed at the same pattern, at the same time.
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How i work - the two pillars
Together we bridge the gap.
I use the Enneagram — not as a personality quiz, but as a precise map — to show you the actual strategy you built to survive in your family, society and the world. The “problem” is not that you have a strategy, it’s that on a deep level you are convinced it is WHO you are.
I use nineteen years of yoga teaching — breath, movement, meditation, the body itself — so that insights into your patterns don’t remain as concepts. The gateway to integration is in the body. So your nervous system, not just your intellectual understanding, gets to change.
Neither piece alone gets you there because both need to work together.
None of this works without compassion for what you find — and I mean real compassion, not the kind that just uses the word “compassion” and then piles on a ton of judgement. The kind of compassion that lets you look directly at the parts of yourself you've spent years avoiding or defending with a love that doesn’t flinch. Without it, insight just becomes one more thing to be hard on yourself about. With it, the pattern finally has room to loosen and something entirely fresh can emerge.
THE REFRAME - living the dream
The work involved in truly understanding yourself was never about escaping into some better, more together version of you and a life that’s waiting for you somewhere else. It's about learning to meet the life you're already living with all the complexities and difficulties included. It is like becoming lucid within the dream itself, instead of a nightmare you're trying to wake up from.
the ground it all stands on
holistic
Coaching
who i am
I'm an accredited Enneagram coach certified in the iEQ9 assessment, and I hold a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology from UC Davis, which grounds my work in Western psychological theory. For over 19 years I've taught yoga, lead workshops and international retreats, and I've kept a daily meditation practice and studied yogic and spiritual texts for more than a decade. Those two threads of my training are integral to how we work together: One shows you the pattern, the other allows you to recognize and feel it move.
I came to this work out of necessity. Parenthood, spiritual seeking, my Mothers death, midlife woes, inevitable marriage conflicts, and stretches of transformation both on my own and with guidance — have led me to uncover the myriad of unconscious patterns as well as disconnections in my body, that kept me stuck. I understand why insight alone never seems to be enough. I know what it is to be caught in a pattern and helplessly watch myself repeat it over and over again. I also know what it feels like when an internal shift occurs that rearranges my internal landscape. Freedom and fulfillment are not myths, they are possibilities that come alive in a visceral way.
My work with clients is to help them see their patterns clearly, meet them without judgment, and turn to the wisdom of the body rather than fight against it. From there, something shifts. Instead of feeling trapped inside the pattern, and trapped in a nightmare, they start to feel reconnected: to themselves, and to the quiet preciousness of the life they're already living. Not some better one waiting elsewhere. This one, lived as the dream it was always meant to be.
Ways to Work Together
However you start, the path is the same: see the pattern clearly, meet it with compassion instead of judgment, and learn to live your actual life as the dream it already is.
coaching packages
All packages include the ieq9 assessment for first-time clients
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One 90-minute session built around your iEQ9 assessment results. If you want clarity on your pattern without committing to an ongoing container yet, this is where to start.
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For those ready to begin working with their pattern, not just understand it.
A six-week container where you build a real, working relationship with your Enneagram type: the core fear, desire, and motivation underneath it, and how it shows up in your relationships, your work, and under stress.
What's included:
4 sessions (60–75 minutes each) over 6 weeks
A personalized map of your pattern: why you do what you do, and where change begins
Foundational somatic tools for interrupting automatic reactions in the moment
Practices suited specifically to you — chosen and shaped around how you actually work, not a generic routine — so you're building something you can keep using on your own
Email support between sessions for real-time questions as things come up
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For those ready to work with the pattern as it actually shows up in daily life
A three-month container that takes everything from Foundations and applies it in real time — including somatic practice to help regulate your nervous system, not just understand your mind.
What's included:
8 sessions (60–75 minutes each) over 3 months
Real-time work with your pattern as it arises in daily life, not just in session
Somatic practices to expand your range of response under stress
Exploration of your growth path (your Enneagram's integration line) in action
Ongoing refinement of your personal practice as your pattern shifts, so what you're doing on your own keeps pace with what's changing in session
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The most comprehensive container, for lasting, felt change
A six-month arc for anyone ready to move from understanding their pattern to relating to it differently, even in the moments it still shows up. This is where the deepest, most durable shifts tend to happen.
What's included:
12 sessions over 6 months, paced to your process
Somatic work to anchor regulation, presence, and resilience over time
Support navigating more complex or layered defenses as they surface
Priority scheduling and extended email support throughout
A fully established personal practice by the end of our work together — one that's genuinely yours, built to outlast our sessions
A closing integration session to consolidate what's changed and what's next
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Real change doesn't always resolve on a fixed timeline, and some clients find they want to keep going after Embodied Living ends — staying with the rhythm, working through a new layer that's surfaced, or simply not wanting to lose the momentum.
Living the Dream MembershipFor clients ready to make this an ongoing part of their life, not a finite project
2 sessions per month, billed monthly at $360/month
Unlimited email support between sessions
A protected, consistent time slot
Your rate locked for as long as you're enrolled, even as standard pricing changes